We meet new people everyday, for work or otherwise—whether we interact with them or not, you develops instinctive likes and dislikes towards people. This has lot to do with their personality. To think that your personality is made up of only the way you look would be anomalous however. Your ideas, the way you think, your priorities in life, your emotions all comprise your personality. You need to understand and accept yourself the way you are if you want to be happy. You can take a personality test to help you figure out what kind of personality you have. A substantial number of these are available online and in different books. Think about how much you know yourself. What are the things that are important for you? Put all societal and familial expectations aside for a minute and think about what you really want to do, what would make you happy? Knowing yourself well is important and will serve you well in various situations.

When you are looking for a job, for example, it would be ideal to not get stuck with something that you don’t want to do. Knowing yourself would also help you accept other people as they are. It will help you develop an open mind. One way or the other, the ultimate thing is to do things that are important for you and that make you happy. If you are an introvert, you should regularly spend quality time by yourself. You can also keep your diary, if you are uncomfortable sharing your deeper thoughts with other people. Don’t hesitate to stand by what you believe in. This is important for you to be happy. It will be good for you to develop a constructive hobby. If you are introvert don’t succumb to peer pressure and compulsively spend time with people. Learn how to say no. Draw lines around you and your space as and when you need to. Extroverts on the other hand should get involved in group activities like theatre for example. Learn new things whenever possible. Don’t hesitate to experiment. Stay in regular touch with your friends and family.